Practical Ways to Show Love Languages #19

Today, I want to talk practical. I want to talk about how to put all these love languages in action today. I want you to watch this and in a few minutes from now be able to do some things that will drastically change your marriage.

To keep this relatively brief, I’m only going to talk about the top four love languages that I see most of the time.

You may not know what a love language is and you may not know that you should care. You may know what they are and are tired of hearing about them.

I’m not trying to make this sound better than it really is, but I promise you that nearly 100% of the time  I’m chatting with couples, the topic of love languages come up.

Just last week a guy came in my office and said, “Wow, it’s been a rough couple of days at my house. No matter what I say, it’s turning into a tense situation.  Keep in mine they have small kids in the house.  I said, hey, you told me you played golf with your buddies the other day on your day off. I’m curious.  When was the last time you had a date night? When was the last time you spend any length of time with her?

You could see his face sink as he just realized that he really had any quality time with his wife In probably a month.  She’s home with kids all day every day and for a month he’s not initiated some time with her.  Some REAL time. REAL quality time.

He immediately called his wife and scheduled a date night. About a week later I asked him how it was going and he said GREAT! With a huge smile on his face.

Here’s what’s funny. For the past couple of years, I’ve had the exact same conversation with him. 

Here’s what people do in many aspects of life.  They don’t worry about anything until it’s an issue.  Fortunately for him, the issue didn’t get too out of hand.

Much of the time our job, our health or whatever, we don’t really focus on it until it gets sideways.

In love languages, time after time, I’ll chat with folks about it, give them practical ways to implement, they will for a while, life gets good, then they stop, then life goes to hell in a handbasket, they come back to me and we start the process all over again.

About Russ Rogers:

Russ has been married to his high school sweetheart for 31 years, Tracy. They have four children of whom three are through college and working in their careers and another in high school.

Russ is the author of The 17 Laws of Marriage, The 17 Laws of Parenting-Revised, The 17 Laws of Parenting, and Co-authored Pillars of Success with Pat Summit and Alexander Haig, Jr. 

Russ is also currently the managing partner of a company that has 80 employees.

Russ has held positions as CFO, COO, Managing Partner, among others.

Russ enjoys time with his family that could include hiking, biking, traveling, four wheeling, and hanging out watching movies while enjoying Cheezits and Peanut Butter M&M’s.